a really good day and some other things

it's delicious out.  and to make it even better, it has been a truly delicious day.   last night no boys woke us up with growing pains. this morning zoe not only came downstairs dressed, but with out being asked she made herself (frozen) pancakes, poured her own drink, even got out her medicine and sat down to eat.  in this process, she didn't yell at her brother, or get frustrated by how to work the microwave, it was, a moment.  i was amazed and thankful.  because for zoe, this task requires high levels of motor planning, focus, patience and initiative- i am so proud of her.

for me, that was enough- before 9:30 am we had accomplished enough.  even if the rest of the day was a scholastic disaster- i was going to be happy.  but, that was only the beginning.  she told me that she'd finished her book 'charlie and the chocolate factory' yesterday (again, on her own) and then gave me a summary of the book.   she quietly did her copy work, she motored through fractions of all things- and got it!

all i can think is, who ate zoe and left this child in her place?

we've been reading 'good queen bess' about queen elizabeth I.  she loves it, because she loves stories- and that is what history is.  today it led to all sorts of great questions- what are small pox? when did they discover germs? how did they discover them? what about microscopes? then onto the geography of great Britain and europe; then some grammar, defining parts of speech, discussing vocabulary words, even breaking down metaphors: "Walsingham's net caught many fish" when speaking of elizabeth's secretary's trap to catch mary queen of scots in treason. we discussed the nuances of 'good and evil' and tried to expand on her dichotomous, disney-esque  approach to all stories.  we talked about the layers of history and that there are different perspectives-different motives - different sides.  we talked about religion and war and violence.

it was home-schooling at it's best- organic- minimally planned- student led- really, all i did was facilitate, let her sit on my lap, and be available.  all i did was quiet my crazy mind and be still.

there is a quote from an american indian-
 "the busy mind is sick, the quiet mind is good, but the still mind is divine."

oh it would be divine to have a still mind.

zoe was off to play with her "friend with autism" and then to her social group.  so i went to get my youngest and run the dreaded 'target' errands. Target must be another name for "how to always spend  $100 when you go for household paper products".

so bryn and i are walking around finding all the things that we'd forgotten we "needed" - like spiderman socks in the dollar bin- and scotch tape.  we were in the boys section because jude's birthday is next week- and i'm noticing that pretty much everything is covered in skulls.

OK- my boys are all about them too- because of pirates- but do we really want our kids covered in creepy? i started flipping through the 75% off section of winter clothes and i'm seeing all these shirts with writing on them (and skulls- usually mixed with guitars).  the phrases on these shirts are all flip and glib and sound like they'd come out of the mouth of bart simpson.  i'm thinking how fascinating this is from a sociological perspective.  and then i come across this one, scribbly writing between drawings of skulls and roses and guitars, saying:  "not here for a long time, only here for a good time."  what? you're in kindergarten.  i hope you're hear for a long time.  and i know you don't know that huey lewis song.

and i'm thinking about my generation as parents and how we dress our kids and how it's still really all about us. i mean is there such thing as a 'cool' two year old? sometimes i want to go up and ask the decked out kid in the pink floyd prism shirt what his favorite song is on 'dark side of the moon'.  it's like our little kids have become bumper stickers- carriers of our image-they're part of our 'brand'. 

what's funny to me is that our generation plans to raise true individuals- kids who aren't just little versions of us- we're OK if they don't want to do what we do or share our views or play the sport we played- but God forbid they want to wear elmo and not the rolling stones.

we all want our kids to look good, i get it, i do too.  and if we wear concert t-shirts than it's not that weird that we'd put them on our kids- but it is amusing to see someone dressed like an 1986 burn out, toting a sippy cup and whining.

the only kid of mine who has any interest in fashion- if you can call it that- is my 4 year old.  he currently has 4 shirts that he will wear- batman, a gray north carolina outdoor store shirt, a plain navy shirt, and a grandma-found-it-on-sale nerdy gray, turquoise and red stripped long sleeve polo shirt.  i don't like any of them- but i love that he cares- that he has his own opinion- that he's differentiating.  because that's what he's supposed to do.

personally i'm a big fan of the hand-me-down.  not just because it's free- although that is definitely a plus- but because it's funny.  jude wore a shirt all summer that said "go uncle jake!" and he doesn't have an uncle jake.  and bryn got attached to a shirt covered in camels that said 'jerusalem' across the bottom- but we've never been to israel.

zoe's fashion is all about comfort- no seams in the shirts, no jeans, no tags in clothes- and the less fabric touching her skin the better.  "Zoe, you're shivering, are you Ok?"  "i'm fine."  " you do realize that you're wearing shorts and it's snowing out."  "mom! i'm fine!"

but really, what do i care who wears what- we are so lucky we have options- and it was a good day! 

i leave you with my line of designer kids shirts- images on the front- writing on the back.

                   "i'd rather be wearing elmo- but i'll take one for the team."

     
"my parents think this shirt is cool, but they don't even own the album"

                                               "i'm scared of my shirt"