Saturday, February 19, 2011

same moon

what is going on in the arab world? i'll be honest- i'm ignorant about the roots about what's happening over there- i also don't have a TV so i'm lacking the many options and updates- i've been reading CNN and the New York Times- but i feel like they just touch the surface- i need more substance. i want to wrap my mind around it.

and in my mind i've been living near there. i just finished reading 'a thousand splendid suns'- i loved it- but it was really depressing- and shocking- and made me feel very, very small.  my problems withered and i realized how lucky i am- how deep is the suffering of others.  how love can have many faces- how sacrifice is an unbelievable gift. 

the two main characters are afghan women- the older one born illegitimately with a broken self esteem- and a broken heart- the young one born into a world of hope and education. their stories begin separately, but they share- fathers who love them (one daily, one from a far) and mothers who don't value them.  the young one knows love- the love of her childhood- who flees kabul with his parents but not before a moment that will stay with her forever- a moment of forbidden passion- years of yearning- satisfied- and she is given a daughter.  after much loss-these two women's lives are woven together as they end up married to the same man- an awful abusive man- an unhappy-jealous-man.  their friendship becomes their lifeline as they survive in a world of war and death and violence. but they find themselves bettered by the other- they grow through what the other brings and there is healing even it the trauma.  then the lover returns- and the husbands wrath ensues and after pages of abuse- as he is about to kill the young one- the older woman ends his life.  it is her moment of self- actualization, her moment of empowerment, but it's still murder, it is self-defense.  the lover and the young one flee with the children and marry, and the old one stays to take the full blame- to die for her deed- to sacrifice herself for them- all of them- her moment of purpose.

in reflection- leila the young one- describes her older friend 'like a rock in the riverbed, enduring with out complaint, her grace not sullied but shaped by the turbulence that washes over her.'  leila and her family return to kabul- to give back- to teach- to face it- to pay homage to the loss- to this woman who gave up her life- to free leila.

that's a lot, to say that i love that description of miriam. her grace being sculpted by the rushing waters of life.  these women lived through waterfalls of grief - but they still laugh and smile and drink tea.  they each find their place to give.  and i love the image of the stream- the smoothness of the rocks in the riverbed.  i can hear it- it's endless movement- the sun catching in the water- a sparkle. 

may my life be grace.  may i be gracious.  may i allow the rushing and the harshness and the pain to wash and shape me- to bring transformation and then betterment to the lives of others.

because we all live under the same moon.

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